Tuesday, April 9, 2013

100 Ways to Be Kind to Your Child

I saw this lovely list the other day and thought you might enjoy it too.  It comes from Alissa at Creative With Kids.  She includes a free printable at the link if you would like a hard copy.

100 Ways to be Kind to your Child
Tell to your child:
1. I love you.
2. I love you no matter what.
3. I love you even when you are angry at me.
4. I love you even when I am angry with you.
5. I love you when you are far way.  My love for you can reach you wherever you are.
6. If I could pick any 4 year old (5 year old, 6 year old…) in the whole wide world, I’d pick you.
7. I love you to the moon and then around the stars and back again.
8. Thank you.
9. I enjoyed playing with you today.
10. My favorite part of the day was when I was with you and we _______.

Tell them:
11. The story of their birth or adoption.
12. About how you cuddled them when they were a baby.
13. The story of their name.
14. A story about yourself when you were their age.
15. The story of how their grandparents met.
16. What your favorite color is.
17. That sometimes you struggle too.
18. That when you’re holding hands and you give three squeezes, it’s a secret code that means, “I love you”.
19. What the plan is.
20. What you’re doing right now.
21. Freeze Tag
22. Uno
23. Crazy 8s
24. Gin Rummy
25. Memory
26. Go Fish
27. I Spy- especially when you’re tired of driving and feel snappish
28. Catch
29. To catch their kiss and put it on your cheek.
30. That their tickle tank is empty and you have to fill it.
31. That their high five is so powerful it nearly knocks you over.
32. That you are super ticklish.
33. That you are explorers in the amazing world of your own backyard.
34. That it’s party day!

35. To get enough sleep.
36. To drink enough water.
37. To eat decent food.
38. Dressing in a way that makes you feel confident and comfortable.
39. Calling a friend the next time you feel like you are about to lose it with the kids.
40. Giving a gentle touch to show approval, rather than saying something.
41. Dancing in the kitchen.
42. To get your kids to bop to the music with you in the car.
43. Showing your kids that you can do a somersault or handstand or a cartwheel.
44. Keeping the sigh to yourself.  Just jump in and help clean up.
45. Using a kind voice, even if you have to fake it.
46. A book of silly poems.
47. A book and then act it out. (Like “I’m going on a Bear Hunt”)
48. Your favorite childhood book to them.
49. When the afternoon is starting to go astray.
50. Outside under a tree.
51. In the library kids corner.
52. The comic book they love that you’re not so hot on.
53. About age appropriate behavior so you can keep your expectations realistic.
54. To your child in the car.
55. To that Lego description, and think how important it is to your child.
56. For that question that indicates your child really needs your input.
57. One second longer than you think you have patience for.
58. For the feelings behind your child’s words.
59. Why do you think that happens?
60. What do you think would happen if______?
61. How shall we find out?
62. What are you thinking about?
63. What was your favorite part of the day?
64. What do you think this tastes like?
65. Your child how to do something instead of banning them from it.
66. How to whistle with a blade of grass.
67. How to shuffle cards- make a bridge if you can!
68. How to cut food.
69. How to fold laundry.
70. How to look up information when you don’t know the answer.
71. Affection to your spouse.
72. That taking care of yourself is important.
Take Time:
73. To watch construction sites.
74. To look at the birds.
75. To allow your child to help you dump ingredients in the bowl.
76. To walk places together.
77. To dig in the dirt together.
78. To do a task at your child’s pace.
79. To just sit with you child while they play.
80. That your child is capable.
81. That you are the right parent for your child.
82. That you are enough.
83. That you can do what is right for your family.
Delight your child:
84. Clean your child’s room as a surprise.
85. Put chocolate chips in the pancakes.
86. Put a love note in their lunch.
87. Make their snack into a smile face shape.
88. Make sounds effects while you help them do something.
89. Sit on the floor with them to play.
Let Go:
90. Of the guilt.
91. Of how you thought it was going to be.
92. Of your need to be right.
93. A kind look.
94. A smile when your child walks into the room.
95. A kind touch back when your child touches you.
96. The chance to connect before you correct so that your child can actually hear your words.
97. Your child a chance to work out their frustrations before helping them.
98. A bath when the day feels long.
99. A hug.

100. You get to choose the next one!  What is your favorite way to be kind to your child?


  1. My 100 would be:

    Notice all the right things your child does and talk about them specifically.

  2. So, so fabulous!! Thanks so much for sharing this. It's so uplifting.

    I feel like this is ok to share here. The other day I dozed, and had a dream that I was with Fred and another women. The woman was trying to squeeze Fred into a space he wouldn't fit into, he was just a little too long. I thought to myself in the dream that I would humor this woman for a second, and then it would be over and we could go on our merry way, doing things the way we do them; I never shove my children in boxes.... I was then shown this experience from Fred's point of view, how uncomfortable, and even scary that situation would be to a child/baby. And how really scary that sort of mind set in a parent could be. I thought of this because of the line, "Trust you are the right parent for your child". That dream has made me more conscious of the fact that though I put myself up against the way others do things for their children, this child is mine and was sent to me because of how we would make a family, how we do things for our children. I can sense the way he needs certain things done, and things that wouldn't be right for him. It's just such a great affirmation as a mother, when I know that I do a lot of things that are less than great! It has also made me want to be more aware of what I am doing with/for my boys. They are such precious, busy, messy blessings!

    So my 100 would be to listen to that inner voice that whispers when I should, or shouldn't do something specific for my boys. Even if I think other mom's would balk.

    1. I love that, Melissa. It's so true.

  3. Great list! It gave me some things to think about.

    She kind of covered this with "thank you," but my 100 would be to express gratitude with a smile, as often as possible. It feels so good to be needed by someone you look up to!

  4. One could read these 100 things as reminders everyday to strip off the natural man, and do things the way the Savior would do them. Could we ever show enough love, gratitude, and satisfaction with the people in our homes and lives?

    Thank you Nonie, and all of you for your personal thoughts. Rich and thoughtful sharing!

    I will take these lovely reminders and put them to greater use with all my beloved children, grandchildren, and for my deserving Stephen too.
    We might do #77, then plant a butternut squash in addition. :)

    A friend wrote this for me when I got married, and I never forget it - "The joy of life is a happy wife". These reminders are good for marriage as well, yes?